3 Things to Do when you Lose your Job.

Your question: “I have lost my job and my finances are in bad shape. I don’t know where to turn or what to do to get this thing turned around. I am feeling depressed about it all. I don’t even know where to begin.”

You know, that is a very important question, especially given the state of our economy. There are many individuals such as yourself who are going through very difficult times. I guess first of all my condolences go out to you, and I understand that you’re feeling depressed; you’ve lost your job. I was looking up some research on this and researchers have found that a common state is depression because you feel hopeless and that is a very difficult thing to feel. So I want to acknowledge that that is a common thing. Then I want to shift to help you with your last statement, “I don’t even know where to begin.”

Continue reading “3 Things to Do when you Lose your Job.”

One Thing to Make you a More Resilient Person

Your question: “How can I become more resilient when I deal with difficult life issues?”

That’s a really good question. Let me talk about some specific things that resilient people do. This comes from research by professionals who have spent their lifetime studying resilient people. In particular, I’ll be referring to Dr. Al Siebert’s work. He has a book titled The Resiliency Advantage. Dr. Siebert studied resilient people for over 40 years and he’s identified specific things that resilient people do to develop more resiliency. He believes that we can all develop more resiliency in our own lives.

How does he suggest that we do that? Your question is something that he’s spent his lifetime studying. Here’s what he came up with. Continue reading “One Thing to Make you a More Resilient Person”

How can talking relieve my past and make it any better?

Your question reads: “I have experienced a lot of trauma in my life and I have just started reaching out for help. My problem is that I’m afraid to open up to others and really talk about what I experienced. I feel like I need to keep up this macho image, but inside, I am torn up. I hate to admit that I’m having any problems. I’ve reviewed suggestions online about how to deal with difficult memories and I see over and over that it is helpful to talk about your experience with others. Can you explain why this is helpful? I just don’t want to open up to people I don’t know. How could talking relieve my past and make it any better?” Continue reading “How can talking relieve my past and make it any better?”

The Power of Journaling

A few years ago I had a client call me during an anxiety attack.

I took the call because I knew that she was in a lot of emotional pain. Unfortunately, I only had a few minutes before my next client would arrive. I quickly assessed her emotional state and how to proceed. The thought that came to my mind in that moment was, “I don’t have enough time to help her navigate through this difficult issue. What is the next best alternative?” Continue reading “The Power of Journaling”

Treating Pornography Addiction


I’m so glad you’re here!

Pornography causes pain both for viewers and for the people they love.

My name is Dr. Kevin Skinner, and I’ve worked with hundreds of people just like you to find help and healing.  I know that I can help you, too.

I have a website developed specifically for individuals and couples struggling with a pornography addiction.  It has many of my products that I have developed over the years to successfully help people just like you overcome the pull of this type of media and regain the trust of those closest to them.

I know it can look impossible, but my good friends, it can be done!

Join with the many others who are healing from pornography addiction and visit my site, today!

Treating Pornography Addiction


Bloom for Women


Welcome to my site!  I’m so glad you’re here.  I am Dr. Kevin Skinner and I have met with hundreds of women hurt by their partner’s actions.

Being betrayed in a relationship by any form of infidelity, including pornography, causes deep trauma.  If you are experiencing anxiety, high stress, fatigue, depression, despair, grief, or fear, you are not crazy and you are not alone!

Help is available from people who understand.  I encourage you to join the community of women you will find at Bloom for Women.  You will be able to access forums full of women just like you and access support from myself and other knowledgeable therapists.

Enter your email below and I will immediately send you the 7 stages of betrayal trauma so that you can see how this all relates to you and how you’ve been feeling.

From the Bloom site:  “Betrayal trauma is a condition that parallels the symptoms of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) and is caused when someone experiences betrayal and deception within their primary relationship; this betrayal damages the trust and safety of the relationship and calls into question the bond they have with their partner.”

Visit the site and get help today!

Bloom for Women

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Discover and Change

handsI’m so glad you’re here!  Nothing can match the happiness we feel when we feel truly understood and accepted by another person.  If you want to deepen that feeling in your life, you have come to the right place.

My name is Dr. Kevin Skinner, and as a marriage and family therapist, I have met with hundreds of couples with that same goal.  Many of us, although we desire the intimacy we see in others’ lives, are blocked from truly connecting because of variables we can’t see.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could take an online test and it would tell us exactly what was standing between us and the intimacy we crave?

As you may have guessed, in an effort to help couples build these deeper connections, I have created just that.

The test, as well as access to classes and webinars on the subject can be found at my Discover and Change website.

Come to the site and see how fulfilling your relationship can truly become.

Discover and Change


How do you know if you’re addicted to sex?

I want to thank you for taking time to ask your question.

I think this is a good question, and a lot of people actually are trying to figure out if there is such a thing as a sex addiction.  In our current mental health profession there is a lot of debate going on about this. But let’s talk about some of the criteria for what we would call pornography or sexual addiction, and what I’m going to refer to is some of Dr. Patrick Carnes’s work; he’s probably the foremost expert on sex addiction. This information comes from my book “Treating Pornography Addiction,” and can also be applied to sexual addiction.

An addiction would consist of the following things: Continue reading “How do you know if you’re addicted to sex?”

5 Steps for Fighting a Porn Addiction

So, you want to know how to fight pornography addiction?

Fighting a pornography addiction is not easy.   In one of my research studies I asked individuals who were attempting to stop viewing pornography to respond to the following statement:

“I have been doing well in my efforts to quit looking at pornography, but it is a lot harder than I thought it would be.”

Well over 50% of them acknowledged that it was a lot harder than they thought it would be.   Over the years, I have observed hundreds of individuals attempting to quit viewing pornography.   Some of them have cried in my office because they simply couldn’t stop. They felt helpless in their efforts to quit viewing it.  None of us like feeling out of control. Continue reading “5 Steps for Fighting a Porn Addiction”